Growing up OC – the original organic food source

Back in my day, we got our food the old fashioned way.  We grew it!  These young whippersnappers today have no idea where food even comes from, let alone that it can grow and thrive in your own backyard.  And all this food shipped in from Chile and Peru used to be grown right here in California, Orange County to be specific.  Why, I oughta…

Ahem.  Sorry ’bout that, I got a little carried away.  It’s true though.  It does seem like kids growing up in OC today have no clue where their food comes from, and the concept of fresh food is practically passé.  The growing of a backyard garden has been relegated to the old fogies, granola crunching environmentalists, and right wing survivalist nut jobs.  The agriculture industry in America, in California, in Orange County has been outsourced to countries south of the border where labor is cheaper and growing seasons near the equator are more favorable to American demands for plums and grapefruits out of season.

However, back in the day, my family had a backyard garden.  It thrived on the rich farm land where our house was built (oh progress!) and I am certain it saved our family a lot of money.  We grew beets, Swiss chard, carrots, green onions, tomatoes, radishes, strawberries, zucchini, yellow squash, artichokes, parsley, and probably more I am not remembering.  We also had a tangerine tree and later my parents planted a lemon tree.  

Having come from parents who were well oriented with home grown foodstuffs, plus the fact that their parents had survived the Great Depression (i.e. they were frugal) and my dad started his own company, having a garden made a lot of sense to us.  In later years, my mom worked for The Irvine Company, at that time one of the largest agricultural companies in the area.  They had fields all over Irvine, and once the fields were no longer commercially viable, employees were invited to a company pick.  Basically, a whole bunch of people showed up at o-dark-thirty in their grubbies with baskets and boxes in the backs of the station wagons that lined the field roads.  We all picked and dug whatever the crop was and at the end of the day you could take home as much as you could carry.  Well, having a Ford LTD station wagon, we could carry A LOT.

Our family dug asparagus, picked green beans, corn, strawberries, and others but these picks stay in my mind the best.  I don’t like asparagus so I was particularly resentful of digging in this big field all by myself for the shoots of green bitterness.  Strawberries were equally hard on the body, not because I didn’t like the result, but because they are low to the ground and it’s hard on your back to stoop, pick, put in your basket, repeat.  Green beans were pretty easy because you could stand up to pick them.  Corn was really fun actually because you could hide among the stalks and get lost in your own little corn world and it smelled so good.  After one corn pick, I remember the wagon back seats were folded down and that car was filled from the back of the front seats to the tailgate, and all the way to the ceiling!  We sat on the tailgate and ate corn right off the cob, uncooked.  It was so sweet, juicy and crunchy!  I’ll never forget it.

The benefit of the company picks and of our backyard garden was that my resourceful mother would put up whatever harvest we had just brought in.  I recall us shucking corn, and her boiling ear after ear of corn, then cutting the corn off the cob and putting it in these special plastic bags.  She had one of those heat-sealing machines and an enormous freezer in the garage.  We had fresh corn, beans, and yes, probably asparagus, all year round.  She made strawberry jam, strawberry purée and fresh strawberry ice cream.  To this day, I cannot eat strawberry jam.  It was all we had for many years and just the thought of it is too much. 

We even grew our own Christmas trees for several years.  Around Christmas, those little trees are available at the hardware store.  Well, my dad would take one out back and plant it in this one part of the yard.  After a couple years, it would be 6-7′ tall.  If you have ever gone to the choose & cut places, you know how much money we saved just with a homegrown Christmas tree and it was something we had helped to grow over the years, making it all the more meaningful at that sentimental time of year.

Back in my day, we were the original organic family but we were the rule, not the exception.  Today I miss the fresh produce that we took out of our yard.  It would be nice for young people to realize the benefits of growing their own produce.  You hear it all the time “it just tastes better!” and that’s just one aspect of fresh-from-the-garden food.  Maybe one day with Melody I will grow a crop of something.  I’m pretty good with tomatoes, even though I cannot stand them.  We’ll see.  I want her to know where her food comes from, to understand that someone has to plant it, tend it, harvest it and ship it, all before we wander through Vons and buy it.  I want her to know that those cute little white strawberry stands are all that remains of Orange County’s great legacy of agriculture.

 

Just Be Happy

John’s cousin Jim said on our wedding video “be happy, just be happy.”  At the time I thought “duh, of course we will be happy!” unlike every other newly married couple watching their wedding video, right?  Just 3 short years later, Jim had unexpectedly passed away, but his brief message really stuck with me.  Being happy is a committment in itself, a state of mind, an attitude you can adopt and maintain.  I considered the many happy days that John and I have had together in the 10 years since we met and the 5 years we have been married and I can confidently say that our happiest days were the product of us both wanting to be happy.

That is not to say that we have never not had a happy day.  When I was pregnant, hormones were making me crazy and any little mistake he made was amplified far out of control, and you know what happens when a prego mama gets out of control.  For those of you who don’t really know, screaming and crying happens.  Not pretty.  But for all that screaming and crying while I was pregnant, I really can’t think of too many times that John and I have not really been happy.  We have been bored, mad, annoyed, angry, irritated and frustrated had our moments.  We are normal.  Hurray!  Being unhapy with someone is different from being unhappy in your demeanor.  It’s okay to be unhappy with someone, with a situation, and with the way things are going in your life, for example, but if you can maintain your happiness in general, you might find it a bit easier to get past the rough spots.  And when you have someone with you to be happy with, the rough spots don’t seem all that bad.  Particularly once you are in fact, past them.

We both like to be happy and we each like the other to be happy.  Whether it takes a glass (bottle) of wine to make us relax, or just the conscious effort to put aside our extreneous frustrations, being with my husband, and of course my family, is much more rewarding when we are both happy.  The other day a friend sent me a little “happy spring” note that said:

Don’t put off your happy life

It’s true! 

“Be happy, just be happy!”

This post is for the Proposal 2.0 hosted at The Glamorous Life Association.  Please visit GLA to read some other great stories on love, life and marriage.

Growing up OC – an old man feels like a young boy

In our county, we have a wonderful piece of history called the Dory Fishing Fleet that continues to flourish today. Founded in 1891, the Dory Fishing Fleet is the only commercial fishing fleet that is permitted to cast off by the Newport Pier. The number of boats has shrunk since its heyday, at which time around 30 boats were active in the fleet. Today there are seven or eight who still ply their nets in the open ocean, setting out as early as 2 in the morning. The age old tradition stirs images of a time when we lived closer to the earth, gathering our consumables and using them immediately rather than the convenience shopping we experience today.

When I was a child, my mom would sometimes go down to the Dory Fishing Fleet market to pick up some fresh caught red snapper or the like. We often ate fish and this was a great way to get outside and do some shopping at the same time. I have a distinct memory of going down the to Dory boats with my family and grandparents one year. I was around 8-10 years old I’d guess. We arrived while they were still bringing in the boats, close to 8 a.m.

The process of bringing in the boats involved placing wide rollers under the boat to drag it up onto the sand, and they acted a bit like wheels on a tank. There were a limited number of these rollers, so when the boat rolled over the last one in the rear, it was run around to the front, and this was repeated over and over, a circular process, until the boat reached its destination.

On this particular visit, my Grandpa Jim worked on recapturing his youth. At the time he might have been in his early 70s. He was a youthful man, strong and happy and I always remember him with a smile on his face. He had a great affinity for very loud, very plaid slacks, golf shirts and (gulp) white belts and shoes. I think that day it’s a safe guess he wore sneakers though, since we were going to be in the sand. Well, when we arrived down there at the beach, Grandpa Jim surprised us all be heading down to the boats and helping pull them up on the shore. He was having a fantastic time, helping pull the boat while the rollers were run from rear to front. I remember the air was damp and chilly and he had on a white hat. The smells were of the sand, the ocean, and the fish. It has embedded itself with the visual memory of Grandpa Jim pulling on that boat with a huge grin on his face.

He had the time of his life!

Somewhere there is a picture of this. My sister, dad and I all know exactly the picture but we cannot find it. We recently looked through every old photo album and shoebox of photos we could find. I’m sad to have misplaced the photo, but I am delighted to have the memory. Create a few memories of your own by visiting the Dory Boats. Your kids are gonna love it!

Growing up OC – would you like to buy…

…some Girl Scout Cookies?  We used to go door-to-door in the neighborhood, ringing doorbells or knocking, hoping someone would place an order for the much beloved cookies produced by the Little Brownie Bakers.  This annual tradition was something I dreaded. And my mom was the troop leader at times so I had to do it.

I hated going door-to-door, asking people to order the cookies and I especially dreaded going back and asking for the money.  I can remember doing this alone in the afternoons after school.  I wore my sash with all my badges and I’m sure every person who opened the door could tell that I did not want to be there at all.

But I also stressed out over not selling the most cookies.  I was intimidated and competitive at the same time.  I was a frustrated child.

That’s not our troop but you have to just admire the woman who dares to put together a horizontally striped sweater with a floral blouse!

Can you even imagine a ten-year-old girl going door-to-door these days?  Alone?  Not on your life. 

Here’s a really interesting and fun article from the Sussex Countian with some history of the Girl Scout Cookie and where I nicked these faboo pictures.

I had a Brownie Beanie.  I admit it.

Growing up OC – sights and sounds of the fair

Every summer, the Orange County Fair comes around and most summers I attend. There have been a few summers that it just didn’t work out – like that summer I was on crutches and in a cast. Yeah, that would have been fun! There have, however, been many, many summers that found me at the fair. One of my favorite memories as a youngster was going to the fair because my Dad would spend a lot of time with us in the stock barns telling us stories about his younger days on Granny & Poppy’s farm in upstate New York. Sometimes we’d sit and watch a cattle auction, or see a milking exhibit. I can recall being afraid to touch a cow, and my Dad reassuring me it would be okay as I tentatively reached out my little hand to its bristly side. I knew it would in fact be okay because Daddy said so. These introductions to livestock helped me and my sister understand “where” our food came from and that animals, produce, and the people who tend them are to be respected and not taken for granted.

And on every visit to the fair, we would get an ice cream bar – the square kind on a stick – dipped in chocolate, maybe dipped in nuts. It was such a treat and I secretly didn’t want to share mine, but I did anyway because that’s just what we did. Maybe one of us got theirs with nuts, so the rest of us might have a small bite if ours were plain. See? We ate dinner at the Chuck Wagon barbeque place and it was a million times better than it is now, just because we were all there together. My Dad travelled a lot when we were little so these family times are really wonderful memories.

We also were each allowed to choose one and only one ride on the midway. I don’t really recall the specific rides we selected, I just remember the intensity of the lights after dark, the sounds of the rides and the riders, the various smells emitting from all the food vendors – popcorn, cotton candy, hot dogs, peanuts. One time I picked a dark ride and regretted it, but other times I picked things like the funhouse for the crazy mirrors and spinning tube thing. We rarely bought anything in the shopping pavilions and we always enjoyed the displays of handwork and photography.

Many years later, in 2002, my sister and I had the great priveledge of escorting our great Uncle Bob to the Orange County Fair while he was here visiting from Delaware. He was one of my Dad’s uncles, and he also worked on Granny & Poppy’s farm, 24/7 because they were his parents. Uncle Bob taught my dad to drive the tractor when he was about 8 and always took little Bert (my dad) with him around the farm. A number of very precious moments took place during this visit. At one point, Uncle Bob excused himself from us and went over to a couple of Army Reservist who were standing off to the side but fully in view for all to see (this was almost a year after 9/11). He chatted with them privately for several moments, and when he returned he told us that he was just thanking them for their dedication to America. Uncle Bob had been at the Battle of the Bulge during World War 2. This deeply touched me that 50-some years later, he was still affected by his experiences and felt kinship with these soldiers who he had never met before that moment.

The second memory I wanted to tell you about from this fair visit is from the oxen display. As I said, Uncle Bob grew up on the farm, and when we wandered over to the livestock, there happened to be an oxen display going on, showing how Bill & Bob (the oxen) could be driven to perform certain types of activites such as pulling the cart and the sledge. This resulted in a story of how Poppy used his oxen on the farm in the early 20th century. At a certain point the oxen were replaced by tractors and all that was left was the ox bow either in a corner of the barn or behind a barn door. And, as things go, at some point, the ox bow left the farm somehow too. My dad assumes it probably was sent over to the dump. They carted loads of old harnesses, oxen equipment, farm implements off as junk. Anyone who has seen the inside of a Cracker Barrell or antiques store in Orange will know that this junk fetches a pretty penny these days! 

Over at Centennial Farm, there was a display of tractors and farm equipment, those ones with the 4″ belts and gigantic wheels and steam and smoke and loud noises, and Uncle Bob talked about which ones were used for what, and which ones were similar to the ones Poppy had used. My dad always took us to these displays when we were younger and I can remember the pop it puff it pop it puff it rhythm of the engines and the feel of the vibration in my feet and chest from some of the engines that were very loud. All this combined with the smells of the farm, the engine fuel and exhaust, the warmth of the sun and almost garish colors of John Deere green and yellow make this a cherished moment from my childhood. I look forward to sharing it with Melody one day soon.

The Orange County Fair has transformed over the 30+ years I’ve been attending, but I still love it. Each visit is made more wonderful because of memories such as these. Share one of your favorite memories of the Fair – Orange County or otherwise – in the comments. This year the Orange County Fair runs from July 10 through August 9. We’ll be there! Will you?

Growing up OC – the sand dunes that dissapeared

 

Long ago, in an OC far far away, we used to park the car on the side of Beach Blvd or Brookhurst, and walk down to the beach.  It was difficult because of the sand dunes.  Once we made it to the beach we had to be careful about getting tar on our feet from the oil rigs all along the coast.  Sometimes we parked near the “smokestacks” but more often I think it was Brookhurst.  The sand dunes were the stereotypical drifts of sand with a rickety rail fence running through, across and around them.  The sand drifted into the street and grain by grain found its way back to the beach.

The image below is of Coast Highway at the Edison Plant (“the smokestacks”) on the corner of PCH and Newland in 1972, the year we moved to the OC.  In this picture, the sand dunes have sea grass on top of them.  They are the grassy area between the road and the asphalt drive along the beach.  It was difficult to trudge over them because the sand was loose and got into your shoes or under you feet if you wore flip flops.  I nicked this picture from Space Age City’s page on the Talbert Gap, a page dedicated to that area at the end of the Santa Ana River.  The little house on the beach is the ranger station at the entrance of the State Beach.  Click on the image for a larger picture.

The next picture is a different angle but the same location some 30 years later.  You can see how much the area has changed.  PCH has gone from a 2-lane road to a 4-lane divided highway.  The sand dunes are gone, replaced by a larger road inside the State Beach and of course more parking to accomodate all the beach-goers.  You’ll note the trailer parks are in both images.  Heck, even in paradise you gotta have trailer parks.  At least we don’t have tornadoes right?

 

Growing Up OC – an invitation to the party

I mentioned in a previous post that across the street from our house, a school had been built.  It was a typical early 70’s design, single story and sprawling, dark brown with orange doors.  Stylish!  It has a green belt in front of the school with pine trees dotted across the lawn.  These trees are very mature now and probably 50′ high or more.  The kindergarten playground was slightly kitty corner to our house, more in front of the next door neighbors’ and had Wizard of Oz themed swing sets.  The Scarecrow always creeped me out a little because his metal mouth gaped open in a big, toothless grin that suggested a doorway to hell instead of an opening for brain insertion.  Yikes!

So, our next door neighbors – who have long since moved away – were the only family on the block with older kids.  While most of the families had young children, these people had teenagers.  They had muscle cars in the driveway whose engines were tinkered with endlessly by the older boy and his buddies.  They had skanky friends who loitered out front and on the grass of the green belt at the school.  They would sit under the trees at night and talk about the universal subjects teenagers discuss – the opposite sex, sex, music, cars and school.  I assume.  I was only around 7.  I wasn’t even invited to these kinds of parties when I was a teenager, so I am really stretching here.

One evening, I heard my dad grumbling about the teenagers huddled under the trees across the street.  Remember, I was about 7 when I heard this.  “grumble grumble…having a doggone pot party over there!” is all I heard (and it likely wasn’t “doggone” I heard, either).  We were probably getting ready for dinner since I remember sitting at the counter in a barstool at the time I heard that.  My simple mind contemplated what a pot party would be…  Take yourself back…you are 7 years old…your dad has just said something intriguing…

Cue harp music that is overused in TV shows to indicate a dream sequence…

Girl in peasant blouse and bell bottoms holds goldenrod colored saucepan in one hand. “Tracy, I don’t like this pot, give me yours.”

Second girl in Hang Loose tee shirt and cut offs holds avacado green colored double-boiler in her lap.  “No way, Jeannie, I brought this one and I have to take it back ho-ome.”

Third girl in tube top and red polyester pants sighs in frustration.  “Jeeze you guys, we came here to share our pots, now don’t be selfish Tracy!  Pass the pot!”

Fade back into present with obnoxious harp music. 

They weren’t really having a Pampered Chef party, were they?

Come play with us, take two

After the thwarted attempt at Fort Knott’s a few weeks ago, my friends and I have really been eager to visit the past.  Auntie, Melody and I went to an event at Saint Catherine’s Military Academy in Anaheim just this past weekend.  It’s a small event and one of the few that is truly focused on education.  Being a military academy, the students participate in research of key events during the Civil War, they present large scale diagrams of military maneuvers, and march around in their uniforms.  The student body is provided with interactive questionaires that require them to speak (actually speak!) to the reenactors to learn about events and attitudes during the 1860s.  We went just to go and took Melody with us.  It was unusually hot that day and Saint Catherine’s has a very large open field and a very small tree-shaded green.  We opted to leave the viewing area and return to the tree-shaded green.  It was nice to visit with Mrs. Akerman of the Temperance Society and a war correspondent for the newspaper, acquaintences from previous events and new friends.  And, I was able to barter (remember that long unfashionable aspect of trade?) Melody’s old shoes for a new dress, paid a few more dollars and wound up with two new outfits for her for less than $20.  I could not make the clothes for $20 let alone buy the materials, and the lady is someone I remember from the German days out at Renaissance Faire, so it felt a bit like old home week.  :-) 

That brings us to the next visit to the past, this time with our full entourage and parlor!  We will be at the Prado Regional Park Civil War Reenactment on April 4-5.  Although this is technically in Los Angeles County, and right on the border between LA and OC, it is so accessible to Orange County folks, there really isn’t a good excuse to flake out miss it!  Prado Regional Park is located just off the 71 west of the 91 – you know, behind the 1776 dam.  It’s the first right after you exit the freeway and is a lush and beautiful park.  There is plenty of play equipment, grass and ponds, paved roads into the reenactment for easier walking, has a huge campground, and the battlefield designated is spacious, hilly and offers expansive views of the action.  In addition to that, last year there were a number of civilian camps offering an idea of what refugees, camp followers, and people like us – the ladies left at home – would experience, including a group that unofficially called themselves the Cranky Ladies, each using a vintage hand-cranked sewing machine to turn out dresses, shirts and other garments.  Hopefully they will be there again this year.  We will have our parlor set up with mending & sewing services for soldiers, games and other home activities.  Last year, we had a number of visitors stop to watch us mend a rug.  Seriously, mend a rug.  Seems that hand sewing really is becoming a thing of the past, as is repairing and reusing those resources around us. 

Anyway, please visit the SCCWA website for a video/slideshow, pricing and more information.  The event is an annual fundraiser for the Chino Boy Scouts Eagle Scout program.  Admission isn’t free, but it is a very busy event with lots of action.  Oh, and there will be an 1860’s rules base ball game on Saturday April 4.  This could be fun for the little ones who may not even realize base ball is that old.  It was frequently played by prisoners of war and between units as a way to pass the time.  Hope you will will put aside some time and come out to see us!

Growing up OC

When I think about where I grew up, my memories of course are somewhat limited to a small geography.  I mean, kids think about things in terms of going to the park, or how far it is to Wendy’s house, and will this trip be on foot or can a bike make it go faster/easier/more fun?  I grew up in a part of Orange County that was going through a development boom during the 70s.  Much of the OC was doing this during the 70s, but where I lived had been an asparagus field until our house was built.  Somewhere there are pictures of the house actually being built.  I loved the smell of the construction materials, the fresh cut wood, the dry wall, plaster, mastic, and other things used in new home construction. I have a small memory of coming around the corner to our street on the last day of moving, just knowing we would not go back to the old house.  I was 3 when we moved in and by the time I was 4 I had fallen down the stairs at least once.  These were not the days of baby gates.  We had a straight staircase with a tile entry at the bottom, e.g. a gangway to head trauma.  Fortunately the falls did not bust my noggin.  A school was built right across the street from our house, which at the time was great for walking to school, but now that many students come from outside the area via bus or Mom-taxi, the traffic is horrendous and is the bane of my parents’ lives.

Around the corner and across the street from our house is Fountain Valley Hospital, but on the same side of the street was a bean field.  It was rumored that the owner of the bean field had a big dog and a shotgun, and that he would either shoot or have his dog maim trespassing children who wanted to cut the corner to get to the other tract of houses “way over there” where Hillary lived. The street was one of those that sort of drifted out of asphalt and up to a dirt path on the sides; there were no sidewalks, curbs or gutters.  There was a margin of weeds between the street and the dirt path, which was probably about 2 feet higher than street level but seemed like the Cliffs of Dover to my youngster’s depth perception.  There were no trees, no shade, and the path was baked in the sun and hardpacked from the people who walked it.  About midway on this path is the spot where some 25 years later a woman will be killed in a “mistaken identity” murder-for-hire while she is out on her walk.  On that other corner was Mile Square Park – a safe park for little kids growing up in the OC back in the 70s.  Back then it was baseball, football and frisbee instead of soccer, soccer and more soccer.  My peers and I remember when “the new section” was built and how marvelous it was!  There were new structures to climb, new paths to explore…  Then some boy had to go and jump fall off the top of the tower there and die, and it was ruined forever, probably long gone by now.  In the center of Mile Square was the landing strip where the land sailers would race and the helicopters from Los Alamitos Air Station would do night landing practices.  We became used to the sounds of helicopters, which was a good thing once the hospital became a regional trauma center.

All around us were fields – strawberry, beans, asparagus, other.  I don’t really know what these other crops were and probably I should but I don’t think I’ll ever bother to find out.  We could see the fireworks from Disneyland early on, but now they have been completely obscured by development and we only hear them at 9:35 pm.  There are fewer and fewer fields and more and more strip malls and indistrial centers (ugh, currently in various stages of vacancy).  Where there now is a Costco shopping center was a field.  The Sam’s Club location used to be the Gemco where we got our school clothes and I bought my very first record (Madonna for those who are interested).  The Market Basket is now a Drug Emporium.  The empty fields around the hospital are developed with office buildings, senior housing and a college headquarters. 

Our membership number at Los Caballeros is a really low number.  I don’t know where they are now in their numbers, but ours is 4-digit and starts with 1.  When we joined, they had a rinky dink building, practically a shanty, 5 or 10 tennis courts, and big dreams, but nothing else.  The industrial complexes that surround Los Cab, even the post office, did not exist.  I recall the building of the Olympic sized pool and the setbacks due to heavy rains raising the water table which was transversed by the deep end of the pool.  It sure was glorious once finished though! 

There were stables along the river trail, acres of open space, fewer traffic lights and much less traffic.  Yes, it was a different time in OC and in my little world where I grew up.  I am going to try to turn this into a repeating theme but for right now it’s too much to boil down.  I don’t even think I’ve captured much of the essence of being 7 in the OC in 1975.  It even smelled different than it does now.  I’m amazed to realize that I remember the smell of OC in the 70s.  It was hot, dusty, flowery, fruity, construction-y.  It smelled of transition, I guess.

Of air conditioned blouses and wine with Pepsi

It can never be said that John’s grandmother failed to make us laugh. Even after a “grand performance” we were always able to laugh after the fact. Eleanor Conradson was responsible for taking John to the beach as a little boy and for taking lots of pictures of him growing up. With parents who ran their own bakery and had four older sons, it’s not surprising that John’s parents were very busy and might not have taken many photos of anyone, let alone John. John has said at times that if it wasn’t for his Grandma, there would have been no photos of him as a child.

She loved to laugh and make other people laugh. Sometimes I think she didn’t realize that we laughed at her expense, but I think she still enjoyed the sound of her family being happy.

One of her memorable expressions was “he’s a horse’s ass!” and she applied it liberally to all comers.

The first family dinner we had together with my family and John’s, Grandma talked about her digestive problems. At the dinner table. At Thanksgiving.

She survived breast cancer twice when a cancer diagnosis was a death sentence. 30 years after her diagnosis, she told me this little story. “My doctor said I had no more than five years to live! Now he’s dead and I’m still going!”

I have a wonderful memory of her dancing at our wedding at the age of 84 and tiring out her great-grandson David Jr. The photographers thought she was a hoot and took a lot of pictures. Our minister found her to be “snappy” when he complemented her peach colored dress and she corrected him. “Thank you, but it’s salmon.”

At a more recent family dinner, she arrived wearing a blouse that had an eyelet design. She called it air conditioning and thought it was very considerate of the manufacturer to make this convenience for people who bought the blouse. During the same evening we had wine. Of course we had wine! She wandered into the kitchen while I was preparing the dinner and asked if we had any Pepsi. “Well, I have Diet Pepsi, is that okay?” I said. I figured she wanted to change to soda, but no, not Grandma. “Oh, no, I like a little Pepsi in my wine to make it sweeter,” she said as she poured Diet Pepsi into her glass of Merlot. I don’t recall the brand, but even some Charles Shaw would be forever tainted with carbonated soda. Later we laughed until we cried. About two weeks later at lunch, she put iced tea into her wine and I had to bite my tongue not to laugh out loud.

She was a full blooded Norwegian and had blond hair with very little gray, piercing blue eyes and was stubborn. She liked to walk without her walker because it was inconvenient, even though her daughter Marie would scold her every time. She enjoyed her two cats, Sheba and Lily, she loved seeing her great-grandchildren, especially Melody, who she called Little John toward the end.

On Monday last week, we visited her at the nursing home where she’s been living for about the last year. The lady in the bed next to her was upset because she could not find the nurses call button. She kept saying “I can’t find my button. I need to push my button!” Grandma looked at me and said “I’ll go push her button!”

I won’t spoil this tribute with any of the other, less humorous memories, just leave it at “she was not perfect.”

Grandma succumbed to her health problems this morning. She had recently been diagnosed with brain, bone and breast cancer, and had two strokes. We will miss her greatly.

Eleanor Conradson
October 11, 1919 – January 12, 2009